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Having wrapped up the overseas “We Are Glamily” tour, Adam and Glamily are back in LA for some well-deserved rest. Later this month, Adam will be in Miami Beach to headline their Gay Pride event. It seems to be the first of his “a-concert-a-month” series while he works on new music. Above we see Adam enjoying his downtime lunching with Sutan. Photo from Just Jared.
Enjoy the chat!

 

2,439 Responses to April 2013 Chat

  1. ultimathule says:

    To be frank, think main reason may be the boy needs “companionship” a lot and Sauli’s not around enough. Maybe for both of them. Just a guess.

  2. rs says:

    I love Broken English. It is one of my favorites on the album. I always saw it as an anthem to overcoming the obstacles of language, cultural differences, etc.

    Now when I hear it, there will be a tinge of sadness. Cry

  3. turquoisewaters says:

    Sad too. I was hoping they could beat the odds and stay together, but life is easy for no one. It was probably not fair of me to begin with to make them the epitome of my romantic thoughts about true love/soulmates/blablabla. I hope they can get through it okay and can remember fondly the great times they had together. But yeah, I agree, this sucks for now.

  4. cwm says:

    Awwww, so sad. I loved their obvious love and passion for each other, and was inspired by it. I too had hoped that they would go the distance, but it must be really hard to maintain a relationship given the pressures of fame, travel, media, etc. They did have a great run of a couple of years, and I’m glad they’re still friends. I hope they’re both ok and not too heartbroken. I’m confident they’ll both land on their feet and find happiness with other people, but it’s going to take all of us a little adjustment to get used to no more Sauli in Adam’s life. They were so beautiful together. Sad.

  5. cwm says:

    I do believe Adam when he says they’re still very close and good friends. He always seems to manage to stay on good terms with his ex-boyfriends, which is great. I also believe him when he says that the relationship “ran its course,” which may suggest that rather than having a lot of drama or heartbreak, they mutually decided that it was time (conjecture on my part; of course, we don’t know the reasons). But in any case, it’s still hard. So I’m sending them both good thoughts and wishes.

    ETA: Also, this was, by all appearances, a healthy relationship (the first one in a long time for Adam) and it ended on good terms. That’s really important. He has said that he’s still a neophyte when it comes to relationships and love. I think that he learned a lot from Sauli and their relationship and gained a lot of confidence from it, in terms of what he has to offer someone else and what he deserves, and that he can find love and deserves love. So I think their relationship was really good for him, that he is better for having been in it, and that his next relationship will benefit from the great run he had with Sauli. Heart

  6. Calgary says:

    Why am I so sad?

  7. retjenny says:

    It was so obvious the couple of days before the both left the U.S. that a split was occurring, but the BE dedication was what seal the deal for me. It seem to have a finality to it. And the same with the Birthday tweet. No personal or “love” greeting. Also, I don’t think any member of the band tweet a birthday greeting to Sauli. It makes me very sad because they both seemed so happy but life does go on.

  8. aely says:

    Adam Lambert‏@adamlambert2m
    Love you all!! Smile

  9. turquoisewaters says:

    calgary says: Why am I so sad?

    Because you care, not for the “star”, but for the person. Me too. I hope the fandom finds a good balance between showing support and respecting boundaries.

  10. apal123 says:

    This is very sad as is any personal loss. I’m happy though that they will continue to be friends and lend each other support. I’m convinced that both of these men are absolutely driven to succeed at their chosen professions which makes relationships so hard to maintain. Adam needs to travel and Sauli needs to be where ever his TV show is being filmed. I think that if Adam gets back into the studio to record, he’ll have little time to become a fixture at any type of bar. I wish them both peace in the decisions that they’ve made.

  11. jlurksacto says:

    Chunkey:

    MS. SNARKELUPAGUS ‏@chunkeymonkey81

    I WANT THE TRUTH. NAY! I DEMAND THE TRUTH ABOUT THIS BREAKUP! I DEMAND TO KNOW EXACTLY WHAT KIND OF BAGEL HE GOT AND DECAF OR CAFFEINATED!!

  12. aely says:

    I have been bummed out all day but just went by the post office to pick up my mail from when I was gone and I got the best medicine. jlurks DVD’s! I get to finally watch the Ste Agathe concert! Then maybe a little Hammersmith….THANK YOU!

  13. turquoisewaters says:

    I need to readjust my frame of mind from Map back to Soaked. It might take a minute.

  14. turquoisewaters says:

    Adam Lambert exclusive interview on Europa Plus!
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-d4MfMqIogA

  15. nkd says:

    Antoinette Frank ‏@wardrobeyou 2h
    Shooting today. No monkey, no @michaelbuble but Adam Lambert will be exciting!! http://pic.twitter.com/GDllT32rU0

    AT&T commercial?

  16. aely says:

    Trying to lighten the mood…..

    Byron Cooke‏@Byroncooke1h
    “@adamlambert: Love you all!! Smile” …well maybe not “all” haha pic.twitter.com/T7yYByCJqU

    https://twitter.com/Byroncooke/status/320271947755814912/photo/1

  17. ultimathule says:

    Can’t say any angst here – was never “invested” in the Sauli relationship. Both seem fine anyway – just want Adam to be happy (whatever that means to him) and put out great music.

  18. ultimathule says:
  19. ultimathule says:

    Adam cracks me up – “kind of on its way out” – wth does that mean – twin beds?

  20. TLKC says:

    So I checked in here just before I left work and read the news. Then I left the keys in the office door and had to go back and get them and then I got home and the cat had thrown up in two places (she must have been reading ADAM 24 7) and then I wrote a heartfelt paragraph or two about how sad I was and then I hit the wrong key and the whole thing was wiped out.

    So this is a shitty day and I am sad.

    I guess we all knew this day would come. Adam & Sauli are young and they are guys and life is full of temptations, particularly in LA. I made them the epitome of my romantic thoughts, too and like turquoisewaters, I know it was unfair.

    Never again will I enter into a long distance relationship with a couple I don’t know.

    Peace and love to both of them. I am going to keep following Sauli and I hope some Finnish fan will translate the first episode of his new show. WTF, I am still following Brad and watching the odd Husbands.

    And I will sit and wait for news of Adam and cd number three.

  21. turquoisewaters says:

    Never again will I enter into a long distance relationship with a couple I don’t know.

    Bwahaha!!! So true. I’ll try to follow you with your wise words.

  22. TLKC says:

    So nice to see that a break-up breaks you up ulti.

  23. dcglam says:

    ultimathule says:
    04/05/2013 at 6:18 pm
    Can’t say any angst here – was never “invested” in the Sauli relationship. Both seem fine anyway – just want Adam to be happy (whatever that means to him) and put out great music.

    I have to admit that I am there right along with you, ultimathule. I love Adam and have only been interested in Sauli to the point where he brought Adam happiness. I have a feeling that things have been stressful and not happy between the two of them for a while now. My hope is that maybe Adam can now breathe a bit easier without this added stress and move forward. Wow, just think of all the writing/singing material he will have for his new album! Yes, every cloud does have a silver lining.

  24. luval says:

    To change the subject for a minute. Except for the outfit, I think Kesha looks great! Never even recognized her but saw a clip on ENews. Didn’t realize she was an animal rights activist.

    http://cdn02.cdn.justjared.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/kesha-genesis2/kesha-kaley-cuoco-genesis-awards-gala-2013-07.jpg

  25. ultimathule says:

    Sorry if I offended you, TLKC – but what amused me was not the breakup, but the casual, off-hand way Adam expressed it.

  26. ultimathule says:

    Kesha looks cute there, luval – is that a gold tooth?

  27. luval says:
  28. ultimathule says:

    Yes, dcglam – want that third album more than anything else right now. And, from the hints he’s given in interviews, think he does, too.

  29. Miss Chaos says:

    Can I ad to this shitty day? I had to take my Parrot to the vet only to have them tell me he had to be put to sleep, I have had him for 45 years, the damn cage looks so empty, I cant bring myself to put it away, I keep thinking he is going to appear and say hi to Me, Soooobbbb.
    Then I come here to get a little un stressed, only to find out Adam and Sauli broke up, and get sad all over again, only for worrying that Adam might go into some kind of depression, and write some shitty breakup songs, instead of poprock songs that we were hoping to hear. I cant take any more anguish songs. Bye Charlie bird I am really going to miss you Cry Cry

  30. dcglam says:

    write some shitty breakup songs, instead of poprock songs that we were hoping to hear.

    Miss Chaos, I highly doubt that we will get an album filled with breakup songs. I’m sure Adam has a lot of good memories to take away from his years spent with Sauli. Adam is basically a very positive person. I feel pretty certain that this part of his personality will somehow shine through Album #3.

    I am so sorry about your parrot, Miss Chaos. I can tell how much he meant to you.

  31. luval says:

    So sorry to hear about Charlie, Miss Chaos. You have spoken about him here several times. He’s crossed over The Rainbow Bridge just like cats and dogs do and he is happily hopping (or flying) from branch to branch! This sadness too shall pass.

    And Adam & Sauli will be fine. Cannot wait for new music. Who knows, maybe they’ll get back together some day! For now, though, I see great things happening for both of them. All is well.

  32. TLKC says:

    I was trying to be funny turquoisewaters but I feel the same way you do right now. Doubt I will pay much attention to Adam’s love life going forward. With any luck, he will make it easier by be a bit more circumspect.

    I think he was open about his relationship because he wanted to be a happy example to gay teens. The problem was that fans took his story and ran with it in 27 different directions. Everything from imagining fairy tale weddings to pretending he was a beard. How do you handle that kind of aggressive interest? Adam and Sauli probably had a bit of a hard time figuring out how to make the break-up public but it’s done and they can move on.

    Me, too. I’m just going to think about cd #3 and San Diego.

  33. Ron says:

    Hi ulti!!

    Let’s go somewhere and hold hands. Smile

    My interest in Adam strictly is and has everything to do with the performer and his music.

    Of course I want him to be happy in his personal life but I didn’t concern myself with it because I don’t think that what he does off-stage is any of my business.

    I’ve felt for the longest time that this break up was inevitable and for a number of reasons.

    Adam’s work makes it necessary for him to travel and be away from home for lengthy expanses of time. Absence can make the heart grow fonder but being away from one another can also put a deep wedge even in the strongest relationships.

    People can reach a “mutual agreement” about things but it doesn’t begin that way. Someone has to start it and, in my opinion, this is Sauli’s idea. If I’m correct, and I suspect that I am, I admire Sauli for this decision very much.

    He could have easily decided to take a back seat to Adam’s celebrity and continue to walk red carpets, be invited (albeit by proxy) to exclusive parties and rub elbows with famous movie stars. But coming to this “mutual agreement” tells me that Sauli is very much his own person.

    When he first moved to California, he only had Adam to look to and depend on. He was a stranger in a strange land and it took a great deal of courage to make this life changing transition. It must have been comforting when Adam introduced him to his family and they embraced him. It must have been soon after that that Adam’s friends welcomed him. Then their lives as a couple began.

    With Adam’s frequent absences it makes sense that Sauli would rely on Adam’s family and friends for guidance and companionship. Over time, through Adam’s friends, he’s going to meet other people and make friends of his own who will also introduce him to their friends. Sauli’s world is growing. He’s now becoming his own person and not looking to Adam all the time.

    Adam’s away be it in the recording studio or China. Sauli is now acclimated in California and his life is expanding but Adam can’t be there to be a part of it because his work takes him away.

    Sauli loves Adam. Part of him always will. I think the simple but very complicated fact is that Sauli outgrew Adam. He got his footing, found his bearings, and wants to build his own foundation and be his own man.

    He didn’t in any way use or take advantage of Adam! I’m not suggesting that at all!

    This day arrived after an evolution of a two year relationship and an occurrence of events that’s called life.

    P.S.

    Pssstt, my real thoughts about Sauli?

    He’s an idiot! ROTFL

    Kind of invalidates my whole post, doesn’t it? Laugh

    I would happily walk the occasional red carpet, be invited to exclusive parties and rub elbows with celebrities! As long as I knew Adam was coming home to me, you could find me contentedly waiting for him while lounging by the pool!

    ROTFL

  34. turquoisewaters says:

    Miss Chaos: So sorry about your Charlie.

  35. TLKC says:

    You misunderstood me Ulti. What upset me was the way you joked about Adam’s choice of words in a very tough situation. I doubt this has been easy for him and he probably gave a lot of thought to answering these questions in public. He may have sounded off-hand but he was doing what he has always done, after the AMA’s, after OUT magazine’s open letter and now: minimizing the difficulty of a painful experience.

  36. HK fan says:

    Ron your post makes perfect sense….still really sad though…..Feel sad for Adam, he was so happy the first couple of years, and he often spoke of how lonely he was, and that his biggest fear was of ending up alone, I don’t want those feelings to come back for him. And I think it will be hard to find someone who can handle the publicity and public life the way Sauli could. I don’t want to see lots of one night stands, and people selling their stories about him…

  37. turquoisewaters says:

    Haha, Ron, think you nailed it.
    I guess we always mourn a bit what could have been rather than what actually was. Hopefully the worst part is already over and they both can look forward now. Certainly better than being miserable together. I’m on team New Music.

  38. HK fan says:

    Miss chaos, sorry to hear about your pet parrot, wow 45 years,he will be a big loss to you.

    We had to have our cat put to sleep this week to, she was only 8 1/2, but got ill very suddenly.

  39. TLKC says:

    LOL Ron. Wonderful and apt thoughts. Adam has said he likes to mentor younger people and Saul’s language barrier, the lack of car etc, probabably rendered him more dependent and childlike that he really was by nature. You could be right.

    Yes, I can see you preparing your wardrobe every night for the red carpet. You would take to it like a duck-to-water but honestly Adam would probably have to break-up with you because you might have the edge on him in wardrobe sense. No mentoring needed. Laugh

  40. TLKC says:

    I am so sorry about Charlie Miss Chaos. Forty-five years is a lifetime companion. It sounds as though it was without warning, too. When you mention the empty cage you sound so desolate.

  41. TLKC says:

    Sorry about your cat, HK Fan. My cat is already 12 and she has been getting sick fairly often so it is always in the back of the mind. It’s amazing how much of a companion a pet can be. They just love you. No fights, no recriminations, no cheating. Just love.

  42. TLKC says:

    I don’t want to see lots of one night stands, and people selling their stories about him…

    I worry a bit about this, too. Adam is a quick learner, though. Bite him once, he’s twice shy. Hope so, anyway.

  43. cwm says:

    It’s interesting to see people’s various reactions to the break up, and to their relationship to begin with. I confess to being one of those who was invested in the relationship, mostly because I so want Adam to be happy and to have love in his live, and Sauli and he seemed so perfect for each other. I probably idealized the relationship more than I should have, but at the same time, I was very realistic about the challenges they faced. I used to fear that Adam would be devastated if things didn’t work out with Sauli. But neither one of them is looking or acting particularly devastated at the moment, and I’m glad for that. And the break up was amicable and they remain close, and I’m glad for that, too. I do believe that they both are and will be ok. But I’m sure it’s hard on both of them right now, both on a personal level and as it plays out in the media and with fans. (And who knows, luval, they might end up back together again after a break. Who knows?)

    With their incompatible travel schedules, dual ambitions, pressures of fame, and media and fan intrusion, I think it just got too hard to protect and maintain the relationship. And Ron – I had the same thoughts as you, that Sauli’s ambitions to be more than just Adam’s (incredibly lucky!) boyfriend in the entertainment world may well have been a contributing factor.

    So, as long as they both feel they made the right decision and find happiness, that’s ultimately what matters to me. And since they seem to be on good terms and since we have had hints over the past couple of months that this might be coming, I’m not taking it as hard as I used to think I would. Not gonna lie, though, I will miss Sauli and their relationship in Adam’s life, and those lovely images of the two of them together, and the happy feeling of knowing Adam was so in love. And Broken English, Nirvana, and Map will all now carry a tinge of bittersweet sadness.

    On the upside, great art comes from trial and tribulation, and after the last year of ups and downs, Adam’s got a lot of material to draw from.

    And although I too don’t want to see a bunch of one-night stands, it is cute to see guys on twitter expressing excitement about having a new goal in life, now that Adam is available again. Like in the AfterElton article about the break up, the author wrote “the line forms behind me.” Wink

  44. ultimathule says:

    The only thing I worry about is whether #3 will bring him the success he so obviously craves (and don’t think that’s too strong a word).

    Great post, Ron – idiot, indeed – lol.

  45. Calgary says:

    ulti me too. I was just listening to Ian Tyson today (A revered Canadian folk singer who wrote an iconic song called “Four Strong Winds”) Talking to a young songwriter about trying to write a commercially successful song. “It never works” he responded. “You have to write what you feel”. I hope Adam doesn’t try too hard to find the “right formula”.

  46. nkd says:

    It was beautiful seeing Adam happy and in love. I think Sauli was a great influence and addition to his life for the years they spent together. I’m sure that they have both learned and gained a lot from this relationship and I do hope that they will be able to remain friends.
    And as has been stated, they both seem to be handling things well, in public anyway.
    I still think Sauli is adorable.

  47. HK fan says:

    Maybe it was more Saulis idea, and thats why Adam sang Stay so emotionally on tour??

  48. nkd says:

    Miss Chaos…I am so sorry to hear about your Charlie. 45 years is a long time companion which I know you will miss. Hugs!

    HK fan…I am also sorry to hear of the loss of your cat. I know it’s such a sad time. More hugs!

  49. nkd says:

    I had thought of that too HK fan, the reason for Stay.
    No wonder it brought me to tears!

  50. ultimathule says:

    Thinking about that, too, Calgary, the type of music he’ll be recording – how much of an accommodation to gain access to radio that he’ll have to make. But, then again, he likes some of the top40 pop – so who knows.

    First album mostly given to him, second album his personal preferences, third album ?

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